Change One Word – Change Your Life?

Does the the gap between where your life is & where you’d like it to be, feel bigger than the Grand Canyon at times?

If I were to define the one common thread in all the personal sessions I have done with women over the last 30 years - it would be that most of these bright, aware people simply had a lack of clarity and perspective over both what they were truly capable of being, doing and having, and how to get themselves from their current life situation to living a more rewarding life.

Most of us are so busy being and doing ten different things at once it’s almost impossible to see or sense beyond that.

In this week’s e-news I share with you how  such a lack of clarity around what it is you’d really like, and the words you are using to define it and ask for it –  create the canyon, and how to bridge it.

It’s about understanding the meaning behind the words you use and choosing words which are an authentic match for your intentions -  clear communication in work, personal, and yes, even cosmic relationships producing more of what you’d like.

Let’s start with some goal setting techniques we’ve probably all played with!

“Ask and you shall receive”
You write a list of what you ‘want’, look at it often, try to imagine what it would feel like having it all -  then the Universe/God/higher power will begin moving it all towards you.
It’s all in that big cosmic  warehouse waiting for my order so it can be delivered. But where are those D…. delivery men?

“Your words are your wand” 
Words and thoughts are powertful, like a magic wand that creates what you think and speak about – so we’ve all been trying to speak and think only ‘positive’ for a very long time.
(Patient, but optimistic, sigh.)

And there’s that old chestnut “The Law of Attraction”  which has been cycling through seminars, books and even channeled material for yonks, and is one which I personally have gotten quite a good grip on.
I’m so magnetic I glow in the dark now.
 

So how come we’re not all Comfortably Well Off & supporting 10 world vision children & walking along the beach at sunset holding hands with our soul mate etc etc? 
Where have we been going ‘wrong’?

Here’s the thing

It is an ‘ask and you shall receive’ universe, words are like magic wands and the Law of Attraction does work, but not like ‘they’ tell you it does.
 

WHAT?

Yes, I know, it’s annoying – I’ve been buying those books, writing wish lists & thinking good thoughts since the late 70′s (19, not 18) .

Here’s what may revolutionise the whole ‘dream big’ and and set goals thing for you:-
The Universe does indeed always deliver what you ‘want’. However, to get what you’d like, requires clarity in the asking and languaging it carefully, then putting it in the form of questions. No point confusing the Universe!

1. Clarity – the energy of what you’d like must match the words

It’s important to take the time to work out what truly resonates for you as the life you’d like to be living. This may take several days of asking questions, such as ”What would I like?” as opposed to what you think would be most practical, logical, reasonable and would fit in with everyone else in your life. “What would be rewarding for me?”

This is not about ‘things’ but experiences – a job or business you love, a body that feels fantastic,  interesting and fun friends. It’s about creating a rewarding life, not just the life you think you want or need.

The point here is that  for most of us, money is not what we truly desire – it is simply the means we think we have to have, in order  to get  the things that we think would make living worthwhile. 
Surprised the Universe can’t follow it either? Asking for an amount of  money will not resonate with what you truly desire.  Ask for what you’d like to be doing, not what you think would buy that for you.

2. Languaging -  it’s the words and how you use them!
Saying “I want to manifest more money.” is really saying  ”I is really saying  ”I lack how more money shows up.”  (‘Want’ means ‘the lack of’) . You are asking the Universe for more lack – shortage - in the ways money can come to you. And it will deliver more lack. Mis-applying words is simply sending a garbled message which brings jumbled results.
Instead of your words being ‘magic wands’ it’s been the drama stick, the average stick or the poor stick you’ve been waving about. And for some of us, it’s certainly been the uglystick as far as sticky relationships go.
 

When someone says “I want to lose weight.”  the desire or energy behind the words is “I’d like a lovely body I adore and feel wonderful in.” but the meaning of the words are ” I lack of losing weight” and, the Universe gives you just what you ask for – a lack of losing weight.

‘WANT’ is the one word, which if you dropped from your vocabulary, would create a huge difference in your life.

Remember what you say is what you get – saying I’m tired, broke, stuck, unhappy or fed up solidifies the energy and you just get more of what you ask for. That’s the Law of Attraction at work, right there! Asking a question, however, moves it all on. Read on…

3. Questions -  ‘ask and you shall receive’ is telling us to ask questions! Affirmations and statements only ‘dead-end’ energy.

So, you’ve worked out what you’d really like is an interesting job, doing something you enjoy, which allows you to, say, travel, or buy a house or whatever. Or, you’d like to have a kind, intuitive and fun partner in your life.

So you ask the Universe ‘What it’s going to take for that to show up?” or “What can I do differently that would allow that to show up?”

You ask, and you don’t ponder on it, try to figure it out or answer it. You pay attention to what comes up in the next few days to alert you to the possibilities. And they will appear! You will find yourself having a surge of inspiration, or a set of circumstances will arise which are possibilities for you to investigate.

These are all tools which put you in the position of creating your living  instead of ‘having a life’. Here again, using the words differently brings different results – if you say “my life” that’s a done deal, it’s set, but  living is an on-going, ever changing, present moment thing.

It really is as simple as that, but if your head is spinning, relax. I’ve figured out ways to make these profound changes easy and fun.

I work directly with people to help them get the clarity toa. What would be rewarding for them as individuals
b. what’s stopping it showing up
And then, tools to shift into top gear and start zooming forward.

You can work one on one with me for maximum personal shifts and fast track results in a single session, or commit to a 28 day Break It Wide Open program to transform your living; learn to meditate in a private session  or come and learn Bars bodywork and go at your own pace.

It all starts with a phone call or an email….